Back to School for Your Sex Life
Learning for Better Sexual Pleasure and Safety
September is the perfect time to embrace the “back to school” spirit and refresh your knowledge and skills! Education doesn’t stop when the school bell rings, invest in your relationship and personal well-being. Whether it’s from books, movies, or hands-on experience, continuing your sexual education can lead to a more fulfilling and healthier relationship with both your body and your partner’s.
Learn About Your Own Body
Understanding your body is the foundation of sexual satisfaction. One of the easiest ways to connect with yourself is through masturbation. Masturbation isn’t just about pleasure—it’s a way to discover what feels good, what doesn’t, and how your body responds to touch. Knowing your preferences can also make it easier to communicate with your partner.
But it doesn’t stop there. Kegel exercises, which strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, are a simple yet effective way to boost sexual pleasure. Both men and women can benefit from Kegels.
For women, these exercises can lead to stronger orgasms, while for men, Kegels can help with erection control and intensify orgasmic sensations. Did you know that at Dick & Jane’s we carry toys specifically designed to help you strengthen your pelvic floor?
If you’re ready to add a little extra spice to your self-care routine, investing in sex toys is another great step. From vibrators to prostate massagers, toys can enhance your solo play or be a fun addition to partnered activities.
Learn About Sexual Health
Staying informed about sexual health is just as important as exploring pleasure. Take some time to educate yourself on birth control options, STDs, pregnancy, and the role of condoms in protecting yourself and your partner. Knowing your choices when it comes to contraception can reduce stress and increase your enjoyment.
For example, many people don’t realize there are various forms of birth control—like pills, IUDs, and implants—that might fit their lifestyle better.
Understanding STDs (sexually transmitted diseases), their symptoms, and how to prevent them is crucial for keeping yourself and your partner safe. Condoms are a go-to for preventing both pregnancy and STDs, but they’re only one part of a bigger picture of sexual health. Regular testing, open conversations with your partner, and knowing the symptoms of common infections will empower you to take charge of your sexual well-being.
Learn About Your Partner’s Body
Once you’re in tune with your own body, it’s time to learn about your partner’s. Knowing how to pleasure them not only strengthens intimacy but also builds trust and excitement in the bedroom. Mastering techniques like hand jobs, blow jobs, and prostate stimulation are great ways to explore, along with testing out different pleasure zones.
For example, when giving a hand job, try varying your speed and pressure. You can even use lube for an extra slippery and pleasurable experience.
Blow jobs can also be more satisfying when combined with a little creative movement—using your hands at the base or adding some gentle suction can do wonders. And don’t shy away from exploring the prostate—often called the “male G-spot”—with proper communication and consent. Prostate stimulation can bring about intense pleasure and even lead to stronger orgasms.
Try New Positions
Part of your sexual education should also include trying new positions. Mixing things up helps keep your sex life exciting and prevents things from feeling routine. Here are a few positions to explore:
- The Cowgirl: This classic position gives your partner a great view while allowing you to control the pace and depth.
- Doggy Style: A favorite for many, this position allows for deeper penetration and more intense sensations.
- Spooning: Perfect for those mornings when you’re feeling lazy but still want to get intimate, spooning is a cozy position that brings you physically and emotionally closer.
- Missionary: A classic position that’s comfortable and allows for deep penetration.
Add Our Sex Tips to Your Routine
Here are some of our favorite sex tips that can make all the difference:
- Consent: Always ensure that both partners are consenting to any sexual activity.
- Communicate: If you’re unsure of what your partner likes, ask. Talking openly about your needs and desires leads to better experiences.
- Experimentation: Don’t be afraid to try new things and explore different positions.
- Build Up Tension: Don’t rush! Take your time with foreplay. The more tension you build, the more explosive the release.
- Use Lube: Whether it’s for solo play or with a partner, lubrication reduces friction and can make things feel more pleasurable.
Remember, learning is a lifelong process. Investing time to learn about your body, your partner’s body, and sexual health is a journey that leads to better sex, stronger relationships, and peace of mind. Just like anything else in life, practice makes perfect—and who doesn’t love a little homework when it’s this fun? Dick and Janes offer a variety of sex toys perfect for solo and partner play. Be sure to check out our online store and visit our store locations in Rapid City and Sturgis! Our sexual experts are there to help you with your first time and beyond!
