Busting Myths About Anal Play – Let’s Get to the Bottom of It!
Welcome back to Dick & Jane’s Naughty Spot monthly blog, where we dive deep into the wild, wonderful world of sexual exploration with a mix of fun, facts, and a sprinkle of naughtiness. This month, we’re tackling a topic that’s often whispered about, giggled over, or flat-out misunderstood: anal play.
Whether you’re a curious newbie, a seasoned adventurer, or just here for the laughs, we’re breaking down the myths, spilling the truths, and pairing it all with some top-notch product recommendations from our Rapid City and Sturgis stores. Our trained experts are here to guide you, so let’s get cheeky and clear the air!
Myth #1: “Anal Play is Only for a Certain ‘Type’ of Person”
The Myth: There’s a lingering stereotype that anal play is exclusively for specific genders, sexual orientations, or kinky daredevils. If you’re not “that type,” it’s not for you, right?
The Truth: Anal play is for anyone with a butt who’s curious enough to explore! The anus is packed with nerve endings (around 4,000 of them!), making it a pleasure zone for all humans, regardless of identity or preference. It’s not about fitting a mold—it’s about what feels good to you. Solo, with a partner, or in a group setting, the only “type” that matters is the type who’s open to fun.
Bust It Open: Pleasure isn’t picky, and neither should you. Studies show that more people are dabbling in anal play than ever—nearly 40% of adults in the U.S. have tried it at least once, according to a 2016 survey from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior. So, ditch the labels and grab some lube!
Product Recommendations:
- b-Vibe Snug Plug 1 – Perfect for beginners, this ultra-comfy, body-safe silicone plug has a tapered tip and a weighted core for a gentle, fulfilling feel. Start small and work your way up! Shop Now!
- LELO Hugo – For prostate owners, this vibrating massager hits the P-spot with precision. Remote-controlled for solo or partner play, it’s a game-changer. Shop Now!
- Sliquid Naturals Sassy Lube – A water-based, anal-friendly lube that’s thick, long-lasting, and gentle on sensitive skin. Lube is your BFF here—more on that later! Shop Now!
Myth #2: “You Don’t Need Lube—It’ll Work Itself Out”
The Myth: Some folks think spit, a quick warm-up, or sheer determination is enough to make anal play smooth sailing. No lube? No problem!
The Truth: Oh, honey, no. Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t self-lubricate. Without proper lubrication, you’re risking discomfort, micro-tears, or a downright unpleasant experience. Lube isn’t optional—it’s essential. The slicker, the better!
Bust It Open: Think of lube as the VIP pass to anal paradise. It reduces friction, enhances sensation, and keeps everything safe and enjoyable. Silicone-based lubes last longer for extended play, while water-based options are toy-friendly and easy to clean up. Our experts at Dick & Jane’s always say: “If it’s not slippery, you’re not ready!”
Product Recommendations:
- Pjur Back Door Silicone Lube – Designed specifically for anal, this silky-smooth formula lasts forever and feels luxurious. A little goes a long way! Shop Now!
- Wicked Aqua Lube – A water-based classic that’s paraben-free and perfect for pairing with silicone toys or condoms. Shop Now!
- Lube Launcher – For precision application (because why not?), this handy tool gets the good stuff exactly where it needs to go. Shop Now!
Myth #3: “Anal Play Always Hurts”
The Myth: The idea that anal play is inherently painful keeps a lot of people on the sidelines. “It’s gonna hurt, so why bother?”
The Truth: Anal play shouldn’t hurt if you’re doing it right. Pain is a signal that something’s off—usually a lack of relaxation, lube, or prep. The anal sphincter is a muscle that can stretch and relax with patience, communication, and the right tools. When done properly, it’s more about pressure and pleasure than anything ouch-worthy.
Bust It Open: Start slow, breathe deep, and listen to your body. Foreplay (think external massage or teasing) helps loosen things up, and smaller toys or fingers are great for easing in. A 2021 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that gradual training with plugs or dilators can significantly reduce discomfort and boost enjoyment over time. Our experts are here to coach you through it—stop by the store for a chat!
Product Recommendations:
- Tantus Bend Over Beginner Kit – Two petite silicone plugs (one small, one medium) with flared bases for safe, comfy exploration. Ideal for training! Shop Now!
- Aneros Helix Syn Trident – A sleek, hands-free prostate massager that’s beginner-friendly and oh-so-rewarding. Shop Now!
- Relaxing Anal Spray by Swiss Navy – A light numbing spray to ease tension without dulling the fun. Use sparingly and pair with lube! Shop Now!
Myth #4: “It’s Too Messy to Even Try”
The Myth: The fear of a “mess” stops many in their tracks. “What if it’s gross? What if I ruin the mood?”
The Truth: With a little prep, mess is minimal to nonexistent. The rectum doesn’t store waste—it’s just a passageway—so a quick rinse or enema beforehand can keep things tidy. Plus, towels, wipes, and a chill attitude go a long way. It’s not a science lab; it’s sexy playtime!
Bust It Open: Hygiene is simple: shower, use the bathroom first, or try a small enema if you’re extra cautious. Most people find that once they’re past the initial jitters, it’s no messier than any other romp. Our experts recommend keeping wipes nearby and embracing the human factor—laughter included!
Product Recommendations:
- b-Vibe Anal Training Kit – Comes with three plugs and an enema bulb for easy prep and progression. Education and tools in one! Shop Now!
- Personal Fav Play Flushable Intimate Wipes – Discreet, flushable wipes for a fast clean-up before or after. Toss ‘em and keep the party going! Shop Now!
- Leather Strap On by Sportsheets – Pair this with a dildo for strap-on fun; it’s washable and keeps things hands-free and fuss-free. Shop Now!
Myth #5: “Anal Play is Just for Penetration”
The Myth: It’s all about going “in,” right? If you’re not penetrating, it’s not really anal play.
The Truth: Anal play is a buffet of options, and penetration is just one dish. External stimulation—like rimming, vibration, or massage—can be just as mind-blowing. The anus and surrounding area are sensitive hotspots, so you don’t need to go deep (or at all) to have a good time.
Bust It Open: Mix it up! A vibe on the outside can send shivers up your spine, and teasing the entrance without going in is a tease worth trying. Couples, solo players, or groups can all play with the edges—literally. It’s about exploration, not a checklist.
Product Recommendations:
- We-Vibe Chorus – A couples’ vibrator that nestles perfectly against the perineum or outer anal area for shared vibes. Shop Now!
- Anal Fantasy Ass Kicker Plug With Cock Ring – A cock ring with a built-in anal plug for dual stimulation, or just wear it for the external buzz. Shop Now!
- Rocks Off Petite Sensations – A tiny vibrating bullet that’s perfect for external teasing or shallow play. Shop Now!
Let’s Wrap This Up (With a Bow—or a Plug!)
Anal play doesn’t have to be a mystery wrapped in a taboo. It’s a playground for pleasure when you approach it with curiosity, patience, and the right gear. At Dick & Jane’s Naughty Spot, we’re all about helping you explore safely and confidently—whether you’re flying solo, teaming up, or hosting a party. Swing by our Rapid City or Sturgis stores to chat with our experts, snag these goodies, or just browse the aisles for inspiration. Got questions? We’ve got answers—and maybe a naughty wink or two. Visit us in, or explore our online store to start enhancing your wellness journey today!
What’s your next adventure? Drop us a line or visit us—your butt (and your fun) will thank you!
Stay naughty, stay curious, and always stay lubed!
– The Dick & Jane’s Naughty Spot Crew
